I have really struggled to understand something lately. I have a hard time figuring out the clash between desi boys and girls, particularly Muslims. It’s almost as if it’s a never ending constant war of each side pointing a finger at the other and calling them the spawn of satan. I’ve heard countless boys call girls sluts and shaming them for the way they dress and the way they interact with males. If any particular group lacks respect for women, I would go so far as to say that group is desi boys. But on the other hand, girls are not free from blame either. It just seems that brown boys are all devils in the eyes of desi females. I just don’t get it. What makes desi girls think that they have this special ability to be able to read through the intentions of every desi boy on this planet? It’s clear that desi girls don’t trust desi boys. I understand part of that distrust, but I don’t get why such large assumptions and generalizations are made? We already have enough people outside of our race and religion who have made such large assumptions and used such broad labels against us, we don’t need people within our race doing it to us as well.